I’ve been thinking about motherhood a lot lately. I’ve always wanted to be a mom, but it’s only recently that I’ve actually seen it happening anytime soon. And, as luck would have it, I’ve also started to notice that my cycle is irregular and my hormones are out of whack. It turns out it may not be as easy to have kids as I always thought it would be. I’m 29 now, and I know that fertility in women starts to change around the age of 30. What if it never happens for me? Truth be told, I would be absolutely devastated. Just thinking about it makes me keenly aware of how rocky the road to motherhood can be. My own mother was told she would never have children (but luckily went on to have 6 little rascals). I have friends who have gone through months of IVF treatments to finally get their miracle. I’ve had friends who have miscarried, only to conceive a beautiful, healthy child years later. And I have friends who have miscarried and never brought a child to term. It breaks and simultaneously warms my heart to think of these women’s journeys, what they have endured, and what they have shared through their pain.
On Mother’s Day we honour our incredible, strong, caring, imperfect, beautiful mothers. I’m so incredibly grateful for my own, and for all she’s done for me throughout the years. Of course now I have a mother-in-law to be grateful for as well, and the beautiful son she raised on her own. But today I’m also thinking of all women - the ones who mother their friends, their pets, their nieces and nephews, their students, and their own children. I think of the creativity that is birthed when women get together and share their strengths. I think of the women who had hoped to bring children into this world and couldn’t.
Whether you’re celebrating your mom, grandma, yourself or your friends, here are a few things you can do to honour motherhood today - and every day of the year!
1. Pay attention to her love language
We all give and receive love in different ways. Does she love quality time? Gifts? Kind words? Find out her love language and share something from the heart.
2. Write her a letter
Sometimes it’s difficult to share what’s in our hearts in the moment. Write her a letter so she’ll be able to keep your words close, always.
3. Surprise her
Knowing that someone has taken the time to plan something special for you is an incredible feeling. Do some planning so she can relax and have the details taken care of. After all, she’s probably used to doing a lot of the organizing on her own!
4. Make memories
Try something new, take photos, laugh together. At the end of the day, and at the end of our lives, we’ll remember those special moments that we shared with the people we love.
Happy Mother’s Day!